I have a father with dementia and is living in a memory care unit for which I feel guilty in not caring for him in my home. He did live with me for a while but then his physical needs became greater than what my husband or I could give. My husband has had 3 back surgeries and I have back issues as well. I go to see my dad once or twice a day. I have a daughter who is married and has 2 children. She basically ignores the situation that I have unless I ask her to do something to help out. I feel like telling her how I feel but don't want to distance herself more. I usually get 1 text message a week and maybe 2 phone calls a month. She lives in the same town I do so distance is not a problem. I could use the help but hinting doesn’t work. She has an ill mother in law that she will drive an hour to visit her once a week. I feel things are very unbalanced and don’t know what to do.