My mother has the full slate of estate and trust documents, including the health care proxy and living will. I am the POA, executor, trustee, health care proxy, etc.
The only document on which my only sister is listed is the living will. My mother's wishes are that my sister and I need to decide, mutually, whether to remove life support. It's a very detailed living will, so we will follow my mother's wishes.
There is no DNR. I have been asked many times, at the nursing home, at hospitals, in the emergency room, etc., whether she has a DNR, and when I say "no" they ask if she wants one. I always say "no." And, that she does not want one.
The reason I say "no" is because I know that it would be devastating for my sister if my mother had a cardiac event or other event and nobody tried to revive her because of a DNR and my sister did not get to say good-bye and touch my mother before my mother was declared legally dead. My father did not have a DNR, and he had sudden cardiac arrest, the paramedics revived him, but he ended up in a vegetative state in ICU. He had a living will, and we waited 7 days before removing the life support. But it gave time for people to go see him, while he was still breathing. He was not in any pain. Also, miracles sometimes do happen. That's what the living will is for.....removing life support, when 2 doctors have declared there is no hope.
Anyone else out there have this issue? DNR, or no DNR?