I've been caring for my 97-year-old aunt for about four years. She has heart failure, scoliosis, glaucoma, and is legally blind. She's now bed bound as well. She's under a doctor's care but has requested, through Molst forms, a DNR, and advanced directives prepped by her attorney that she not receive any medical intervention including doctor visits or hospitalization. I understand completely why she feels that way and respect her choices. Recently, she's had symptoms that may point to some type of cancer - nothing visually obvious, just internal symptoms that we can't seem to treat. She doesn't want an exam, and wants to let nature take its course. I know on an intellectual level that it's the right thing to do, but why is every part of me wanting to "fix" this? I was caregiver, to varying degrees, to both my parents and my brother, until they passed away. My aunt and I are very close and the pain I feel watching her decline is insanely bad. She's not in pain, she's relaxed, has been asking me about my plans after she's gone, is very much at peace with this whole thing so I keep my tears to myself. And honestly, when she does pass, I'll be joyful for her that she's no longer trapped in a body she can't really enjoy any more. So why do I feel this desperate need to find out exactly what she has, if anything, and fix it? Don't get me wrong, I won't go against her wishes. Just don't know what to do with all the emotion and fear I feel right now. Anyone else been through this? Thank you.