I've been caring for my grandmother in her home for almost 5 years now. In the past 4 months she's had one thing happen after the other and been in and out of the hospital. She is back at home now. She has a long list of ailments but has had 2 strokes these past few months and is cognitively in and out. Hospice says she's transitioning to death. She sleeps at least 18 hrs a day but when she's up and talks to me her words aren't always all there but she's getting through. She takes her meds and eats well. I'm her medical POA and they keep talking to me about a DNR. I understand the trauma and her chances but I just can't bring myself to even look at their paperwork. I've never talked with my grandma about these things and I'm terrified of making the wrong decision on her behalf. When she's lucid and I ask her she says "well I don't know, what do you think". This is breaking my heart I never knew I could feel pain like this. My mother told me I should sign it but it just doesn't feel right to me. Has anyone ever been in a similar position and what helped you think things through?