I don't know if this is the right topic for this question. I have had questions in different topics regarding my dad who has alzheimers, which led to aspiration pneumonia, which led to hospital, which led to rehab, now back to hospital for aspiration pneumonia which the doctors say will probably repeat despite how limited the diet is.
Sounds like they are suggesting assuming he recovers from the pneumonia which he appears on track to do the next step may be nursing home, memory care, home health, or home hospice, though based on my research me still may not qualify for home hospice.
My brothers and I ideally would like him to be home again for at least until the point he no longer realizes if he is home or not. This would of course be a huge burden on my mom who lives there and while I would have the financial flexibility to go there a lot and help, my mom is neurotic herself and drains me.
If he only has a couple weeks left, I would prefer those two weeks in his home versus a nuring home. My brothers family from North Carolina is visiting over easter and the dream would be for him to be home then but at the very least still be alive then.
But if he could have several months of relatively quality life in a nursing home, versus a few days at home, I would choose nursing home. I don't even know if memory care could adequately care for him.
It seems on this site that there are always people who had been in the same situation and have good advice based on their experiences. I am of course so sad, but my dad is 93 so he's had a good run. The issue is getting him through this last phase of life. I just got off the phone with a friend whoses 30 year old son has stage IV colon cancer, so one has to keep things in perspective.