Anyone who comes to visit or help or clean or entertain this 80 year of woman only hears how bad she has it and that no one helps her. Both are factually untrue. She is extremely well cared for. It is impossible to bring someone to socialize with her because they feel they can never do enough for her. She had 2 hospital stays and my sister, an RN, overheard her telling aide that her'daughters are mean to her.' It is exactly the opposite. How to stop the victim mindset?