I have been taking care of my mother's financial, medical, and estate responsibilities for 9 months, since Mom is now living in Assisted Living. (Note: Her mental illnesses and manipulation over the years had already taken a toll on me). Mom has been moved in and out of AL and IL three times in a 7 month period. My husband and I have moved her twice, and my brother and his wife moved her once. My dad is deceased. I was made their POA and executor many years ago. I live 45 minutes away in a smaller town. My brother lives over 2000 miles away. I have spent countless hours, days, nights, and weekends, agonizing over mom's health issues, making many decisions, commuting, cleaning and organizing her house (which was so cluttered with mail, magazines, clothing etc. it resembled borderline-hoarding) I have researched and interviewed estate-sale liquidators and real estate brokers. Finally, I signed a contract to start the sale of the estate in the spring. I have sent numerous texts and emails to my brother and sister-in-law, trying my best to keep them in the loop. (My brother feels like he is entitled to everything since he is the son. He stayed at the house for almost 2 weeks, moving everything he wanted into a storage facility. He had a friend help him, and I was not invited.) I feel like people's feelings are more important than stuff. I only wanted peace and unity, so I went along with it. Anyway, back to the communication problem... Many times I get no response to my texts or emails, or he will respond with... "I am thinking", and I am left hanging for weeks, wondering what that means. (And, he and his wife both, have had the audacity to accuse me of not communicating.) Meanwhile, the house sits there vacant, and I have to maintain it. I worry about vandalism or worse. (Note: the garage was hit with a paintball, and the drip system didn't shut off automatically causing the water bill to go up $400.00.) Finally, after I told him I signed a contract, my brother answered my email saying he wanted to go back to the house one more time, but he took off a month last year and he is out of PTO. The house has been sitting vacant for 9 months now, and apparently he wants me to wait until he can come back again. I realize it's a difficult time for him... and living far away is hard too. I told him that. I won't tell them how I feel because they won't understand, and they do not care anyway. There are layers and layers of emotional pain. I am feeling so defeated and hurt because they can't understand... I know I have done my very best at handling everything. The only thing I get in return is emotional pain. My health is now suffering from all the stress. My brother changed the POA to make it a shared joint effort, but it is not working out. Also, I told my brother I would be turning everything over to him. I have organized everything for him to make the transition as smooth and easy as possible. He said it was unreasonable for me to do that since they live far away. What is my next step? The estate value and inheritance is worth a lot, financially speaking. I am willing to walk away from it all. How do I remove myself from POA and as a family member?