My parents have recently started having health issues and refuse to call me (only child). I have begged, screamed, cried and they always agree they will and then don’t. I have 3 kids and a stressful job so they are so worried about bothering me, but of course I would help them anytime no matter what. In fact, it is harder when they don’t call because inevitably I will have to bail them out of some situation. My mom (71) has developed severe memory issues and now has diverticulitis and may need surgery. My dad (90) is trying to be the caregiver and is stubborn and secretive. He has fallen a few times and will not tell me or ask me for help. In fact, he called his 80 something brother to ask for help rather than me. I fussed, we all cried and my dad said he will call me from now on. Of course, I am the one who will have to take care of it anyway because my uncle can’t. How can I get them to ask for help? Even more importantly, how do I start talking to them about living in assisted living? I fear for their safety this point. Thank you so much in advance for your help! I love them so much and want them to be well!