I am a caretaker for my grandparents in their late 80s.
My grandmother has dementia. She is constantly asking why she no longer has a computer, or why her cell phone changed to a simplified version.
She was neglecting to pay bills, falling prey to scams such as "proprietary" health news subscriptions, "miracle cures" etc.
It breaks my heart because the computer was a link to the outside world for her and I don't know what to tell her on days when her dementia is good and she is self-aware and truly mystified as to why her world has changed. Though other days she is not aware that any such changes have been implemented.
Does anyone have any insight on how to communicate to her gently that she has been having some slight changes in memory so that I can diffuse some of the understandable anger and resentment that her belongings were taken, and her responsibilities transitioned?
I ask because on days that she's sharp and self-aware, she feels like there's a maligned collusion toward her to push her into isolation which is not the case, I assure you, and I'm the only one in the family who cares to try and make an effort to soften the blow of that realization.
Anything helps! Thank you!