Over the last few weeks, we have had a major success - my husband has finally accepted help from (male) home health aids! WOOHOO! This has added a new element of freedom for me, and I'm grateful.
However... I'm not used to having someone else around for more than a few hours a day, especially a man. The aides (which are sent via a contract with the VA) can accept or decline the job, and I've learned they much prefer 8 hour or longer shifts. How do I adjust to having a man (55 yrs old) in my house for 8 hours or longer multiple times a week? I need some practical tips and encouragement here.
I do have a few tasks for them to do while they're here - laundry (but not my personal items), dishes, clean bathrooms, take out trash, etc. But then they sit in the living room, which doubles as my bedroom because I sleep on one of the couches and work station at the nearby desk. Yesterday, the fellow helped us go to a doctor's appointment, which was surprisingly nice. Then we settled back home, and I didn't know whether to make dinner (he refused lunch, saying he just ate), do a little computer work (with him sitting behind me) or what! I became so anxious. And, that was only a 4 hour day. What would I do during 8 hours?? Can I send him outside for a while? My husband does not require much attention except for transfers.