I have become a caregiver for my Mother In Law who has stage 3 (?) Alzheimer’s. On a daily basis, I end up spending more time with her than my husband. On occasion, especially in the evening, she can say very hurtful things - often racist (I am white and she is black). I know she wouldn’t have said these things earlier in her life; however, they still hurt and I have to walk away to keep from saying something back to her. She also seems to act helpless, especially when her son is around. She “needs” him to help her put on her coat, boots, or get her ice cream... as an example. She doesn’t do this with me. Her son enables her by getting her ice cream, chocolate, and cookies almost on a daily basis, because she will pout if he doesn’t! Anyway, I am feeling resentful of her. I truly hate to say this!! She is a kind and loving woman; however, at times I am so tempted to talk back to her. Any advice is appreciated.