My boyfriend is taking care of his 85 year old mother. She is not doing well. He and I live about 3 hours away from each other. When we started dating we lived in the same town and his mom was in low level assisted living. I accepted a job 3 hours away and we decided to keep dating. Since then, his mom has become quite ill, has been in and out of the hospital and rehab 4 times in the last 3 months. She is currently in a rehab center but they are telling him her next stop will be a nursing home. He is her main caregiver, due to the other siblings being far away or having their own health issues to deal with. He has been spending all day and nights with her. I think he is afraid she will die when he leaves. How do I help him through this? What do I need to do/say when she dies? What should I expect after she dies? We had talked about marriage before she got so sick, but everything about our relationship is on hold now.