My sibling has full financial control of my parents' care in AL and SIL does appointments outside as needed. Problem, she constantly complains about their depression, their cleanliness, their desire for outings, store etc. She refuses to do. We live in different states, I recently toured a facility near me to relocate them as I don’t work and did their care totally prior to my Dad's hip fx, but they talked them out of it.
I offer to try and get shut out, unless I comply and move to where they are, which I will not do, I have health issues, disabled, etc.
Every time I ask about anything it’s an act of congress.
I’ve been told by so many people to just let it go, but they’re MY PARENTS 😢
The AL they are in should offer transportation. They should have outings where the residents are taken shopping and visit places. Call and see if they do.
How do you think you will be able to do for parents if you have health problems and a disability. And sibling holds the purse strings. Your Mom is 77 (you should take her name and birth date out of ur profile) thats not old. Her health issues will get worse as time goes on and she will need more care than an AL can give.
You made an offer, it was refused. I agree, if you can't move to where ur parents are, then ur going to need to let it go.