My father is on oxygen24/7 and is worsening. my stepmother is not coping well and we have discussed our concerns with her and my father. she refuses any outside help even from family yet is unable to do the basic things needed to ensure both remain healthy-ie cleaning (dusting-which is critical for someone with chronic breathing problems), going to the grocery store for groceries which my father finds difficult, going out to do necc. errands. They don't want to be a burden as they are only 63 but something must be done as we are very afraid this is impeding both of their lives esp. my fathers health. She refuses to see a dr. for anything and has not done so in 10 years-she's losing teeth, needs new glasses as her prescription is no longer working for her,is rapidly losing weight, etc. My father is worried sick over her that he pushes himself physically to make up for what she can't seem to do. We are stuck in the middle and feel helpless> how can we talk any sense into them?