I've been my mom's sole caregiver for about 10 years. At first it was simply paying her bills and checking in on her every month or so. She lived in senior housing about 400 miles away and was doing quite well there. She fell and broke her hip a little over 2 years ago and things went downhill from there. She moved in with me about a little over a year ago and it's been 24/7 since then. She had a stroke just before Christmas and came back home in January. It's been even worse since then. The few things she could do for herself she couldn't or wouldn't do anymore. I'm so burned out I'm having a hard time even being civil let alone kind. I lose it with her every day after I've promised myself I wouldn't the day before. I've never been physical with her, but I can't seem to control my mouth. I am so full of resentment it's awful. I resent that I can have no life after working so hard for so many years to be able to enjoy retirement (she moved in with me 2 months after I retired). I hate myself for being this way and wanting to put her in a memory care facility against her wishes, but I'm afraid. Afraid that I will have a breakdown and then she will have noone to advocate for her or worse; that I will have a breakdown and hurt her.