My husband helped his parents build this big house while a teen and has helped maintain it after FIL passed 11 years ago. Stress is affecting my Hubby's heart. We live 250 miles away. I am trapped here looking after MIL with dementia/parkinsons, she is demanding and controlling of all things. Some of the stuff is just pure garbage and broken. Stuff doesn't get moved in 15 or 30 years. I was trying to be respectful and not touch her stuff, She was in england during ww2 and was rationed, but the insanity of the unhealthy clutter has reached a breaking point. When we try to throw stuff away she drags stuff back out of the truck, dirty , filthy useless garbage, when we are not looking and busy. She wants to know every item that is leaving and always has a future use for it, no she doesn't/ I plan to lay down the law, I have had enough of her stressing out my beloved hubby , no more, here comes the tough love and she is going to get an earful next time she values her junk over her son. I plan to get in her face and block her movements, she will be pissed. Last year she went out of her mind when we had to throw out her extra garage fridge that totally died, and all the food was bad. Any ideas to make it easier? Is it the right thing to do?