I will never understand why familys split apart when caring for there mother. I am at a lost how to deal with my current situation. My mother is requiring more care and supervision involving her care. I have been the primary in her care. setting up the VA benefits and finding her home health care because they are against placing my mother in assited living. I have been trying to set a plan in place when my mom needs to go to a home,but all they do is tell me I am being controlling but yet they dont want to help I am the youngest of 5 siblings. I am so overwhelmed.