My father-in-law has dementia. He and my mother-in-law were extremely active and quite sociable for 35 years within their community, church, neighborhood and with their respective family members. Ever so slowly, as with most other individuals with dementia, his signs and symptoms got worse. At first he was forgetful of little things such as where he put his keys or remembering what day of the week it was. Then he started to withdraw from events or scheduled activities saying that he wasn't feeling very well. (We later realized it was too difficult for him to recall people's names and keep up with conversation and he was embarrassed) Fast forward a year or so and now that Mom and Dad don't go out any longer everyone stops by - at all times of the day and night. People mean well and they simply want to stay in touch but they don't recognize that any added stimulation such as laughter or excessive talking, a lot of movement, too many people in a room makes him feel agitated. He becomes withdrawn and fidgets with his hands while keeping a pleasant smile on his face or when people stay too long he sits in his chair and fall into a deep sleep. No one seems to notice these reactions and often times what ends up happening is that visitors ignore him altogether and continue to visit with Mom or with one another. (She's fine mentally and physically though the endless stream of people coming and going tires her out) What can I do? I am at home with them helping out 24/7 but I'm fairly new to the family and I don't want to offend anyone by speaking up and it would sadden me if people stopped coming by. Any suggestions or wisdom would be greatly appreciated!