My children and grandchildren do not have the financial advantages that my elderly mother has accomplished. I want to help care for my grandchildren so my children (their parents) can work. My mother can afford care, unlike my children who are living paycheck to paycheck. My mother is the type to look for any free care regardless of who has to perform it. I have made the decision to help my children and grandchildren. How do I deal with the guilt and obligation to my mother when I know my children and grandchildren need me more because of their limited financial resources?