My mother, probably in the early stages of dementia is really needing more help with things. Today I discovered her state tax return was returned because she had marked several crazy things such as she was a dependent and she was married. My mom went to my husband with this because she was trying to hide it from me, but of course my husband told me. (She had also made a big goof with her federal taxes too). Moms housekeeping also lacks much to be desired. I refuse to do this because 1) I have my own house with two young boys to try and keep sanitary 2) I just REALLY hate housework and my own house is never good 3) it enrages me she doesn't even throw away garbage when the can is two feet from the where she sets it down.
These aren't the only issues she needs assistance with but just an example and I'm sure more things are sure to come soon.
How can I convince her that she needs to let me handle things and that she needs to trust I'm going to do what is best for her? I understand she doesn't want to give up independence but I'm worn out with cleaning up messes and would prefer to just handle things the first time.