My father has severe dementia and is hostile toward me when I try to get him to put on clean clothes and change his depends. Today, for example, he slept until 2 p.m. When he got up the depends were soaked as were the sheets and blanket. I told him I needed to wash the sheets and wanted him to change his clothes and put on something clean. He became furious at me and started slapping at me to get out of the room. He said he was going to punch me in the face and raised his fist to me. He was in my face and cornered me. I was scared of him.
The doctor has also suggested that he go to a memory care facility so I have been researching a couple in the area. My mother, who is in the hospital right now, said that he would change once she came back home. He cannot change. I have tried to talk to her about him going to a facility. She seems to think because she had taken care of him I could too. But I can't. The reaction I have to his outbursts make me physically ill. I can do other things but I cannot directly deal with him--it is too stressful.
Any advice you can offer would be very helpful to me. Thank you!