Mom finally agreed to go tour a facility today (yay, progress!). Seemed like a nice place, but they are more like Independent Living and it would cost $500/mo extra to have someone come and take mom's blood sugar and administer insulin and meds twice a day. They do, however, have a call button and staff available on site in case of emergency, so that part is nice.
It seemed like a friendly community with lots of activities. I'm thinking mom would do better with a roommate, although she was complaining about not liking being around all the people. But she is also afraid to be alone for long periods of time. I can't leave for more than a couple hours or so at most, even then it's a struggle.
This community seemed like there would be people around in the common areas most of the time, but no semi private rooms available.
Since she's been on the Cogentin, she has been able to perform her ADLS better. Still a little shakiness but can still bathe, dress, brush hair, etc. Meds would be the only thing she would need physical help with daily.
Anything that I should know or ask about AL from some of you who have had parents there? Would it be possible that independent living might be a better deal (within a "community" setting like this one, not separate apartment buildings - this was all one indoor, enclosed facility which is locked in the evening and residents enter by key card, similar to a hotel), and then just pay extra for med services?
Mom's issue right now is primarily with her mental health, struggling with paranoia, anxiety and fear of being alone for long periods of time. She is still ambulatory but has gotten isolated due to her fear, etc and doesn't have any friends and rarely wants to leave the house.