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My husband, who is 69, has been diagnosed with dementia/korsakoffs syndrome. He is no longer drinking, is highly functioning and still drives to familiar places. He does have memory issues and difficulty learning new things. I am wanting to relocate to a better neighborhood into a smaller home. I am not sure if this will have a negative effect on him and do not want to do the "wrong" thing. We see the doctor later this week and I plan to have this conversation with him but also wanted to ask the members of this forum that may have experienced similar moves and outcomes.

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You said he is still driving to familiar places. PLEASE keep this in mind - he may try to drive using old patterns with a new set of streets and have an accident or get hopelessly lost. That would be one of my biggest concerns in a new neighborhood.
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I moved my mom 3 times as her dementia progressed. She adjusted within a couple of weeks. Just pre plan to be vigilant with him for a couple of weeks as he could be a little unsteady and a fall risk as he adjusts. Try not to leave for long errands as you move. That means delaying redecorating and going out to buy curtains. If you have time and can take things in small steps, bring him to your new place for short periods. You can pack for 30 min each way, old and new homes, with your small items. This will let you know how well he adjusts.

This is also an opportunity to declutter but it may be better to do this on your own without his input. Again do this while you are packing and try to hide it.
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Is there a person doing daily caregiving for your husband now? Would that person continue in that role in the new location? Often familiar people are more important than familiar objects.

Many people with dementia are disturbed by changes in their environment. Some are not.

Sometimes a move is necessary whether it will be disturbing or not. The patient can no longer function in assisted living and must be moved to a higher level of care. Sometimes the environment change is the lesser of the stresses.

My mother spent one long weekend with me, and one long weekend with another daughter each month. This was to provide respite to the daughter she lived with. I could tell that the change in environment was not ideal for Mom. But it would have been less ideal if the main caregiver got burnt out! Mom did relax after a few visits.

Sometimes ya just gotta do what ya gotta do, ya know?

I take it you will be moving with him? This is about your home environment too, then. And your needs and preferences are as important as his.
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Hang on. Some one here should be able to answer your question.
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