He passed 2 weeks ago from long illness. She knows he gone, they did not have a good marriage due to dad's controlling and emotional abuse, but it was still a marriage of 63 years. She is having trouble understandably so with the "surreal" feelings regarding his passing. I am 55 and staying with mom 24/7. What are the best medications for mom in the situation to calm her sudden energy spike. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Ignore my screenname. That's how I felt while I was caring for my dying father for over 2 years. I want to help my mom adjust to the change in the best way possible.