I moved in with my mother to care for her after she broke her hip a few years ago. She needed more care than I could give so my sisters and I moved her to an independent living facility. We are now having to move her to assisted living. She had been in her home for over 40 years and I completely understand her frustration with having to give up things that made her comfortable. However, my mom has been in her apartment for a year and things are not getting any better as far as her complaining is concerned. No matter what is going on, she will find something to complain about and is constantly negative. For instance, my mom complains that she doesn't get to go to church or out to eat anymore. My sister offered to take her to church and then out to lunch but my mother refused because she said my sister can't handle taking care of her even for three hours. Also, my mother did not tell my sister this, she told me but did not want me to do anything about it. I am the youngest of five and my mom has always been closer to me. The negativity is affecting my mom's health and I'm just at a loss. I could go on and on...my question is how do I deal with the constant complaining and negativity? I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings but this situation is completely draining me. I wasn't quite sure which topic this falls under so I chose Tough Issues but it could be considered Family & Relationships, Caregiver Burnout or many others.