I believe my husband was showing signs of dementia in 2011. He is a Vietnam Vet and has depression and PTSD. He was diagnosed with lunch cancer in 2012. He had surgery, and while the doctors say they got it all, he developed an infection from the chest tube. It took from July until November of 2012 to have the infection properly diagnosed. By then, it had traveled through his blood stream and into his brain. I had to retire last year in order to stay home to take care of him full time. I have a few people and relatives who will come in and stay with him while I had lunch with a friend or run errands. I've also looked into respite care in a nursing home for short stints. I have fibromyalgia and one of the worst triggers is stress. Yikes. I'm really afraid that I will burn out way before he reaching the point of having to enter a long term care facility. What do I do?