Getting harder even with aid. They talk to deceased family. Mother is barely mobile, incontinent and dispite eating well, continues to lose weight. At present, she is 78 pounds fully clothed including shoes. Her sister is a wanderer and also incontinent. She gets up in the night often, dresses herself and wakes her sister up with questions. Sister chews her food but puts it back on her plate. Both ladies only move to go to the table or use the restroom. They are confused. Even with a daily routine, they struggle.
Not sure it this is normal but they are truly mean to each other, both physically and verbally. They love each other and have a need to be together at all times, however, they are separate bedrooms.
Medicaid pays for an aide to come to the house while we work but we have to pay out of pocket if we ever want to leave the house. Our children are great and help in the evenings so we can attend Tai Chi classes twice a week.
Both ladies talk to dead family members and swear they are present in the room, however, neither remembers being married or knows who we are most of the time.
Had a doctor visit this week. Mother's feet are blue and her toes are swelling. An autrasound showed plaque in the veins. Sister's feet are also blue but no swelling. Overall, the doctor said we are doing a "fantastic job" caring for the ladies.
We don't want to put the ladies into a nursing home because we would feel bad if they didn't get the care they receive at home. When should we begin looking for a home since we know they can't stay with us. We are tired, feel caged, and need some time to ourselves. We just don't want to caused the ladies undue stress or harm moving them to unfamilar housing.