A bit of history first, I am 33 years old and have 2 children, 6 and 3. I have been married for 11 years. My dad died when I was 16. My relationship with my husband is not so good. Since the beginning of my relationship with my husband my thoughts and feelings have been ignored. I have tried countless times to get my husband to communicate with me. He has never been able to as a result of how he was raised. I totally get that, but when your wife is crying and needing you and there is no response to her, eventually she quits trying, especially after 14 years together (11 years married). My relationship with his family is also strained. Three years ago I started to fall out of love with him. Then my Mom who at the time was 54 was diagnosed with breast cancer. She underwent a bilateral mastectomy and 6 rounds of chemo. I live an hour away from her and went home as often as possible to help her. Her cancer went away and then almost a year later returned to her liver. She was given 2 years to live. The cancer again went away and then 3 months later returned again to her liver. She is undergoing her 3rd type of chemo and has been taking treatments, 1 a week for 3 weeks and then off a week since June of 2012. Throughout my years with my husband and the emotional neglect I confided in my mom. She is my best friend and she has been the one there for me when he was not. Now that summer is coming up I am wanting to move home to her to help her over the summer. I work from home so that is not an issue. However, I am at the verge of divorce and know in my heart it is the right thing for me. I am worried however, about my kids, although my husband has been more focused on hunting and fishing than our children, of course until now when he knows I'm at the verge of divorce. I know many people say, if the parents are happy then the children are happy. I sometimes feel that adults use that as a band aid to make themselves feel better for breaking up their family. Anyway, I have been seeing a counselor in order to deal with the grief of my mom's cancer and the loss of what I believe is a failed marriage. I am still with my husband, and my question is...... If I feel that in order to survive emotionally that I need to be there to help care for my mother, should my husband allow me to? He is only wanting me to go home every weekend to help her. My step dad works and things have to be done. And I simply want to be with my Mom. I do not know how much time she has left. He is worried about seeing the kids, however I will tell you that out of a 60 day hunting season, he hunted 53 days and was not worried about the kids or me. Please help me. Thank you.