Me again… just when you think it’s ok to go back into the water! Don’t mean to be flip just trying to get through this without tears. 92 yr.old LBD husband back home from the hospital. CHF pericardium procedure with blood in fluid. No cancer, no virus..sent home and has quickly declined. Refusing to eat or drink ..lots of mumbling and saying I don’t feel good, doesn’t want to get out of bed..2 days before in the hospital he presented pleasant and agreeable to Dr.and nurses.
I am beyond confused, annoyed, and uncertain about what to do and how to help him..
I can be very firm with him and get some results to eating and drinking… no where near a normal amount for him .. no effort on his own to help with anything that involves physical effort..
I know each time he has had to do things that require change of routine or environment it takes something out of him he never regains his strength…
Question, am I being played by him or could he be nearing the end?
He is very passive aggressive and after 56 yrs of marriage I’ve learned his ways of getting his way …where do I find the answers?
I have been isolated with him for nearly 2 yrs.. first because we always isolated for the flu and then covid started ..
If this is the dementia it’s a thousand times worse than what I have already experienced in the last 5 years..He has a mind set that he “can’t” eat, drink, talk, breathe… even though he has never thrown up and can find his normal voice when pushed to use it..very sad ..breathing and oxygen is good when breathing through his mouth…
The CHF is new and he was sent home without any directions or meds? On how to care for him…
Thanks for letting me be part of your group..everyone has always been kind and helpful..
I’m scared … sad …confused… and feel pressured to make a decision on his care ..ideally he would stay home and go peacefully in his sleep… not sure anymore about placing him in some type of care..Anything you can share from your experience and wisdom will be greatly appreciated..