Husband with Parkinsons, I am caregiver, he needs help with direction, meds, meal preparation, appts etc. He can not function independently.
Local daughter is POA, financial and medical if something happens to both of us. Son in another state is backup.
Our daughter has recently become detached. My concern is if something happened to me she would just put him in a nursing home, and not make sure he was getting good, adequate care.
Oldest daughter also out of state, who is very involved via phone and visits when she can, feels if something happened to me all of our children should be involved in care for their Dad.
Local daughter has helped with some financial things, but seems disinterested in hearing about her father, and barely speaks with him. She is going through events in her life, empty nest, husband died 7 years ago, and now a new boyfriend. Initially when we moved to be closer to her she was very involved, and helpful, which is why we made her POA, and now I am wondering if we have made a mistake. I try to be independent and do not pester her or ask for help unless I need to. I have decided I have to do this, but it has been difficult to understand the standoffish-ness. Majority of our communication is by text, so as a result many things are lost in the communication, & she doesn't follow through like she used to.