It seems over the past two weeks, my 90-yr-old mother with dementia has declined quickly. She spends two weeks at her own home with me there, then goes to my brother's house for two weeks. During the last stay with my brother, she walked into his and his wife's bedroom at 3am, talked to their pit bull who was sleeping in his crate on the floor and that woke my brother up. She was in her pajamas but had her tennis shoes on and some of her clothes were in the basket of her walker.
When he asked her what she was doing, she said she was ready to "go home." She said that there was "a lady at her house who stays with her sometimes that would be wondering where she was." That "lady" would be me. Mom does not know where she is when she is at his house, nor why she is there and asks him about it the entire time. Sometimes she thinks he is her brother (who died 2 years ago) and she never remembers his wife's name. She can not find her way around his house (although she did get to his bedroom!) and she has to be led to whatever room she is trying to find. She has been visiting his home for over 25 years!
When she came home from his house this past Sunday, she did not know she was in her own home and did not know where anything was. She "toured the house" from one end to the other, commenting along the way about what a nice house this was and how she loved all the decor. I try to get her to go to the bathroom about every 2 hours or so but, to this day, she does not know where it is. After she uses the bathroom, she always asks, "Where do I go now?" This is a house she has lived in for over 45 years. Her inability to find her way around was not the case before this last trip to my brother's house.
Since she has been home this time, she has not used my name once. I asked her if she knew who I was and she hesitated then said "my daughter." When I asked her what my name was, she did not know.
She has severe aphasia and is difficult to understand in the best of situations. It seems to have worsened in the past few weeks.
I guess what I am asking is if this rapid decline is "normal" for this awful disease? It seems I got a different mother back this time.