My mother chose me to be POA ... in (Wisconsin) and at that time was Ok ... due to hospital stay for UTI and very high ammonia levels cause all kinds of mental problems. She’s been out over a yr and I’ve had to move her 3 times now to 3 different assist living places due to her not wanting to stop her drinking within the facilities. She is dying of liver disease (cirrhosis ) to be exact. Been on the transplant list twice and she can’t even call the sickness what it is. She claims she has cancer and she does not have cancer .. yet can remember most every detail that they doctors ask her about anything. Yet to a compentacy test and that doctor said it was time to invoke POA. The problem is she feels totally competant to make all her own choices which I’ve tried to let her have as I don’t wish to be anybody’s keeper especially my mother. But some things like driving ... I don’t want her doing motor skills and response times are not what they need to be to drive. So she’s furious about that and she has no license taken by the state cause of the active POA. Long story short she wants me off as acting POA cause she can only blame me for the choices I’ve made in her best interest but she strongly disagrees .... question - can she her self take me off or who has that authority to do so??
I’m so frustrated I want to give it up, but she’s still my mother and I care for her ... but the insults and bitterness she has now a days is getting ridiculous... and driving what only a few short yrs ago used to be a very loving relationship ..