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dontknow, please give us an update when you can.
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I would reconsider.

If she has Medicaid it will need to be applied for in TX & this could take some time as you will have to apply and there are residency factors in that you will need to prove your mother is a Texas resident.

It’s difficult but think with your head not your heart.

I also think your sister can stop you as she has POA, or at least throw a monkey wrench into the situation & take legal action to get guardianship over your mother. Filing for & obtaining guardianship takes time and lots of money. Do you have the financial resources to pay for an attorney to represent you?
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JoAnn29 Dec 24, 2018
Shane, her post of the 22 said she was leaving that day to get Mom. Not sure if she even read the last few posts. Would love to know what happened. Hopefully the facility didn't release Mom. At my Moms facility, I had to list the people who could take her out.
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Dontknow, I sincerely hope you don’t find yourself in serious trouble for taking your mom out of her facility. I’m wondering if you could be charged with kidnapping. The facility could be in trouble for letting you remove your mom without the permission of the POA.

Mom has dementia and may not even remember if your sister has been there or not.

I hope it works out for you but my gut feeling is that you’re biting off way more than you can chew.
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I think at this point your sister can stop you. If Mom is in Memory care then her Dementia is to the point she can't be left on her own. You are taking what a Dementia person is saying verbatim. Your sister could be visiting everyday and your Mom has forgotten. My Aunt said to her ALZ sister "Peggy was here to visit". Her sister said "No ". Really, cause my Aunt passed Peggy (my Mom) as she was coming into the facility, Her sister (my other Aunt) forgot in those few minutes.

So my answer is yes, her POA is now in effect. The facility should not be handing Mom over to you either without talking to the POA. If you insist, the police could be called in. You really have no legal standing here.

Your profile says you have stage 4 cancer. How do you think you can care for a Dementia patient? I don't think you realize the care involved.
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Dontknow, I agree with Ahmijoy and Tothill's posts, do NOT move your Mom from memory care. Your Mom is in memory care for a very good reason, and the reason is that is now takes a village to take care of her. Will you have enough people to help you take care of your Mom?

If your Mom is on Medicaid [which is different than Medicare], Medicaid stops at the State line. Thus, once your Mom passes over the MN State line, she is no longer on Medicaid. Once in Texas, your Mom will need to start the Medicaid applying process all over again, which could take awhile.

Please reconsider.
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Dontknow Dec 24, 2018
My mom moved in with my sister, who has no medical training. She said my mom use to yell at her, her kids and her husband, so she couldn't deal with her. I am a CNA, I have worked on Alzheimer units and lived with an Alzheimer's patient for 5 years until she passed away. I know what is involved in caring for someone with very early, early dementia.

My mother, prior to being placed in a psych ward, then memory care, she moved from my sisters home, to her own apartment. She would catch the bus to go shopping, go to the movies etc. Not once did she not pay rent and bills. This was just 6 months ago.

I am now done with my health issues. And feel I can care for her, if needed.

I'm pretty sure she is on Medicaid after her POA got done with the finances, if you know what I mean. Last I know she was on Medicare, when she lived with me in another state.

Mom went back to MN when I moved to TX, and now has been placed, first in a psych ward and now memory care against her own will. When I talk to my mother, she says "can't I revoke, the POA". "Can they really hold me here, against my will". Would a full blown dementia patient be able to communicate that to me?

I thought about being charged for kidnapping my own mother. When I talk to her and she says "come get me", is that kidnapping?

I believe if I can get to her early enough I can slow some of the dementia down as I know what she does and does not like. I want to get her while she still can talk.
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Dont, your mother is in a Memory Care unit because she has dementia and needs 24/7 supervision/care.

How are you going to provide that?

How is her care being paid for? You could jeopardize future care coverage.

If you do not have the POA’s permission to take Mum to your house out of state you could face kidnapping charges.
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If your sister has a Healthcare POA, she would need to prove that your home is not safe for your mom to live in. As an example, if Mom has mobility issues, your sister could say you have too many steps and mom couldn’t get around safely in your home. She could say you need to make your home handicap accessible; install handicap bars in the bathroom for instance. If Mom takes off, You’d have to install alarms and ,locks on windows and doors. If Mom needs Durable medical equipment as prescribed by her doctor, you need to provide it. You’d also have to prove you are able to meet her needs. If she needs 24/7 care, you’d need to provide it or arrange for in-home health aides to come in to help.

Mom’s care is your sister’s #1 concern and as POA, it’s her duty to make sure Mom is well-cared for and has all she needs. If she allows you to move Mom in and it’s proven that you aren’t taking care of her properly (not saying this would happen—just a “what if”) your sister could be in big trouble if someone reports it.

Caring for someone is a big responsibility that takes lots of preparation. It shouldn’t be a bone of contention between family members. Sister is just looking out for Mom.
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Dontknow Dec 22, 2018
Thanks for your answer. Just want to move mom in with me. She says my sister has forgot about her and doesn't visit. I live in TX they live in MN. Mom is in memory care center. Driving to MN today to get her.
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