My boyfriend and I have 3 kids. 2 are mine and 1 I jointly ours ages 6,5 & 3. OUR 3 year old is a special needs child. Well my 34 year old boyfriends grandmother passed away and she was his mother's care giver. His family wanted to throw her into a VA home and she's only 55 & he refused and decided we would take over her care. She has extreme paranoia labeled as schizophrenia. She is officially moving in with us today, as I write this she is getting off the plane. I really don't know what to expect and I am nervous. My family keeps telling me "a kitchen isn't big enough for 2 women." When we unloaded the trailer with her stuff I had a complete meltdown. She is a hoarder of junk, clothes and nicknacks. We told her to only load what was needed. But upon unloading the trailer she brought the whole house trashcans included, which sent me into a complete mental meltdown as I am very OCD & particular about my home. After the melt down I went back to being ok, but as the day has arrived I am freaking out! I don't think I can take on her weekly VA visits as well as my job & my youngest sons health care needs. I'm afraid this is going to be an end all to my boyfriend and I as we both are very into our privacy and don't do well when guests stay at our home for more than a day or 2. I'm afraid my kids will feel the stress and the change won't be good for anyone. (I did tell him if she doesn't stay on her meds it's a 3 strike and she or I am out rule & he agreed as our kids come before anything else.) I can't change the situation as she has no one else who will care for her. And I understand that. But I honestly don't know what to do, or how I will handle it. I expressed my concerns to my boyfriend & he told me to just not worry about it and that everything will work out. I need solid advice! I am only 24 years old and didn't see our life going in this direction so soon!