He's stopped taking all of his meds and he's been having a lot of mini- to big strokes. He also won't go to get checked out by a doctor or any of that.
I think that a daughter/son that loves their dad so much that they are willing to take care of them is a beautiful thing!!! No one will take care of him like a loved one. That being said, never take this on without knowing the costs, the physical challenges, sleep issues, showering, eating, toileting, medications, doctor visits, possible hospital trips, changes in personality, or all the other challenges that come with doing this wonderful act of love. Best of luck to you.
That is simply not true. A loved one most probably doesn't have the training for major issues, such as having to give them a shot in the stomach or dealing with non-stop diarrhea in the middle of the night. A loved one can fall apart emotionally while providing care for a family member because it is so very hard to watch them decline and die. A loved one could be like my Rude Aunt, who treated her brother and the whole family terribly as he died and afterward.
Yet a professional caregiver can come to love their clients, as was the case with both of my parents in the past and my husband presently. Even without love, the kindness and respect and professionaliism of non-family caregivers has major benefits for the sick person.
Do you live with dad? If your looking to become a paid caregiver, the only way is through the state, after an assessment, and if he won't even go to doctors, that's not going to happen.
Next time you see any signs of stroke, walk out side, or in another room, call 911, don't ask him , don't tell him! Just do it!!
The best thing you can do is call 911 and have him taken to the ER, telling them about his mini strokes and that he's refusing care for himself. Not sure if they can force him but I'm sure EMTs are now pretty good at cajoling people so they will choose to get treated. We really need more information for context: How old is he? How do you know he is having strokes? I was with my Aunt when she had a "big stroke" which paralyzed half her body. Is this what happened? Does he have any symptoms or a diagnosis of dementia or cognitive/memory impairment? Do you really think you can care for him (assuming) by yourself? Honestly, few seasoned caregivers on this forum will probably encourage you to do this -- especially if it is by yourself. Please consider getting him in to a LTC facility where he will get the care he needs and you won't risk becoming burned out.
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That is simply not true. A loved one most probably doesn't have the training for major issues, such as having to give them a shot in the stomach or dealing with non-stop diarrhea in the middle of the night. A loved one can fall apart emotionally while providing care for a family member because it is so very hard to watch them decline and die. A loved one could be like my Rude Aunt, who treated her brother and the whole family terribly as he died and afterward.
Yet a professional caregiver can come to love their clients, as was the case with both of my parents in the past and my husband presently. Even without love, the kindness and respect and professionaliism of non-family caregivers has major benefits for the sick person.
Next time you see any signs of stroke, walk out side, or in another room, call 911, don't ask him , don't tell him! Just do it!!
Move in? Provide meals, help keep his home clean & tidy etc?
Or be PAID for caregiving?
Or something else? Something along the lines of making your Dad seek medical help, take prescribed meds, follow diet & exercise advice?
Let me ask: Is your Dad safe? Is he eating? Washing himself, changing soiled clothing? Is his home mostly clean & tidy?
Or is he unable to look after himself? Living in squalor, or has vermin in the home?
What level of help does he need?