To give some background, my mom had a stroke 6 years ago, I've been her caretaker (along with some help of my dad.) Left side paralyzed, totally wheelchair bound, needs help with just about everything.
Yesterday she woke up acting not herself, she was very lethargic, acting confused etc. Doing weird things like reaching to the ground for a cup that wasn't there that she insisted was. She kept wanting to go to bed, so I figured maybe she was loopy from her meds the night before (including a normal dose of nyquil.)
This morning she woke up hollering for help to get up which my dad took care of, and he instantly noticed (like I did the day before) something is off. She's slurring, talking nonsense, and calling out for a family member she knows for a fact (before this all happened) lives in Kansas (were in California) She can't seem to stand up for some reason (for transfers, normally she stands and we just guide her and provide extra support) whenever we tried we could feel it was like trying to lift her deadweight (she's a bigger woman) she wasn't helping us at all even though she insisted she was.
Well, we finally manage to lift her dead weight together and down she goes, we had to call paramedics and told them something happened to her the past 24 hours, they administered some test and said because she passed and refuses hospital treatment they couldn't take her.
So now I'm stuck with my mom in bed, literally no way to get her out as she can't seem to stand and is very disoriented/lack of balance.
Some other symptoms I noticed from yesterday and still occurring (even worse) today:
-She's forgotten how to use the phone. My room is in the opposite side of the house so she always (about 50 times a day) uses it to call/page my cellphone in my room to alert me when needing something. Instead she's now been hollering to get my attention, I checked her phone to see if she tried to call me before yelling and as I suspected, the phone is off the hook/on call, only she seemed to have dialed a bunch of random digits and hit call. And instead of trying it correct it (like she normally would but can't seem to now) she just tossed it and started shouting for me instead.
-She doesn't know how to use the remote, which she's a master at as most of her time is spent watching TV. She's very particular about what she likes to watch, and yesterday I caught her sitting in her wheelchair watching a Spanish infomercial (she doesn't speak Spanish) something she would never watch. It seemed like whatever was on TV would capture her attention as opposed to being her very picky self and only watching the stuff she DVRs.
-She didn't eat/had no interest in eating, which is very very unlike her. She usually eats 3 meals or more a day and snacks in between. It's like her favorite thing to do. She still hasn't eaten.
So what do I do now? This is very unlike her, she's never had any kind of episode or anything like this. Aside from her physical limitations she's very coherent, even pays her own bills and stuff, and uses the computer flawlessly. Now it's like she's regressed to the state she was in right after she had her first stroke. I honestly believe she had another stroke based on her slurring (which she hasnt done since she had her first stroke 6 yrs ago), imbalanced to the point she could barely sit up straight in the bed to try and get up or even stand, which she had absolutely no problem doing pre-24 hours ago. It's like deja vu from the morning she had her first stroke. She won't willingly go to Dr and even if she did I have no way to get her there because we can't even lift her out of bed, much less get her out into the car.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do, no way to get her up to feed her, go to the bathroom, etc. And if she goes in her bed she's too big for us to move/lift/roll her to change her pads.
Seriously I'm so stressed and worried I can't stop crying because I have no idea what to do.