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Kikokiko Asked May 28, 2023

Is good to shout to siblings who abuse me long time?

Favegirl1 May 29, 2023
I see that there are a lot of sibling issues in News Feed of late, and I’m sure many of us on this forum have endured bullying, manipulation etc from their siblings. These always seem to be the same siblings who do nothing to help and are only after the big prize at the end. I don’t know about your situation which has resulted in you yelling at your siblings as I haven’t seen any of your other posts. But my sister and I are also in a situation where we are not sure if we can trust our brother any longer who is the POA for our fathers estate. We are very disturbed by events that have led us to distrust him. He asked my sister something and she told him speak to me also which he refuses to do, why i don’t know. Now he is angry with her for telling me. Which leads me to think that he intends to be unethical or sneaky. I have made a claim for Government Care payments recently but I don’t like my chances as our father has excess assets which only my brother has access to. Initially I was living off a term deposit but now that’s all gone with the cost of living. My Dad has been helping me out with grocery shopping but I really don’t feel comfortable using his money. besides which , my brother resents it. So I am looking for casual work while our brother earns over $200k a year. All I have is $ 460 fortnightly pension which wouldn’t last a week. Do I feel like screaming at him? I honestly can’t be bothered now.

funkygrandma59 May 28, 2023
Why don't you try forgiving them instead and then move on with your life? From your many other posts as of late it is obvious that you do need to see a good therapist or counselor.
I hope you will do just that.
Kikokiko May 29, 2023
Yes I'm with online therapist

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lisatrevor May 28, 2023
How do they abuse you?

lealonnie1 May 28, 2023
What's good is to remove yourself from abusive relationships in general, get therapy to deal with the trauma that's ensued from them, and to realize this forum is one for caregivers to elders who have issues or questions or need guidance relating to the elder care they're performing.

Here is a link to the top 15 abuse/ discussion and message board forums online currently:

https://blog.feedspot.com/abuse_forums/

JoAnn29 May 28, 2023
It may make you feel good but will not effect them. They will just think u have finally lost it.

Your therapist should be giving you the tools to deal with these people. There's the "Grey Rock" method where u just ignore them.

Are u living in the US? I know some cultures its hard to walk away. But thats what you need to do. Get a job and a place of your own. If a parent needs care, seems there are other children who can pick up the flack.

AlvaDeer May 28, 2023
Sure it is. Absolutely normal I would say.

BarbBrooklyn May 28, 2023
Shouting, if you mean that literally, is rarely effective or useful.

Are you seeing a therapist?

Justwow123 May 28, 2023
I’m not understanding you question.

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