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Caregiver341 Asked April 2023

What will happen?

My 75 year old father has cognitive decline after an ischemic stroke 4 months ago.


 


He refuses to bathe. He refuses to brush his teeth. He truly believes he’s still smoking cigarettes (he’s definitely not). He eats mainly processed foods, many sweets (including sodas), no vegetables, some fruit.


 


He has a blood clot on an eye vessel which is pretty big accordingly to his ophthalmologist.


 


Worst of all, he is refusing his medication. He is on multiple blood pressure medications, blood thinners and such. He has coronary artery disease, hypertension, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, nearly pre-diabetic, has had 2 heart attacks, an aortic aneurysm that was repaired about 6 years ago and refused his follow-ups.


 


my question is, how likely is death considering his health issues, lack of care and no medication? I’m his full time caregiver, I spoke to his doctor who then gave him a lecture about the importance of medication and all, but it seems to be pointless.


 


he is confused everyday, so I don’t know if that’s the reason.


 


should I expect the worst or is he still ok?


 


thank you.

Caregiver341 Apr 2023
Yes, I am trying to get information/answers as much as I can.
Daughterof1930 Apr 2023
Your father has multiple serious conditions that over time have less and less treatments or solutions. No one, including his doctor can predict how long your dad may continue living. Not at all intending to sound harsh, but having been through the long decline and loss of both my parents, “the worst” isn’t a parent dying (though that’s horribly sad) The worst is watching them live in a failing body that no longer works, much less not being able to think clearly anymore. I’d encourage you to focus on enjoying the time with your dad, not when the end may come, and accepting that he’s changed and not the father you once knew. I wish you both peace

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Fawnby Apr 2023
Call hospice and ask for an evaluation. They should be able to advise you.

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