I am so sorry you both are facing this so young. Play along and change the subject. His reality is not yours any more due to the brain changes made by the disease.
It is best to educate yourself (books, videos, websites etc.) so you know what to expect and have some tools to deal with the changes.
Please come back here for support Build in time for yourself during the day. You need to look after you too. ((((((hugs)))))))
You will find that the reasoning ability is gone. Never argue with them. Sometimes agreeing is the best. Filter will eventually go as does processing what is said to him. There will be "stories" that you will say he is lying. He isn't, his mind can no longer differentiate between reality, dreams and what he sees on TV.
You will lose the person your husband was. It is so hard to watch this happen. There is a good video on you tube. Go to you tube and put "Alzheimer video" in search. There is one with a yellow brain. Its a cartoon type thing. It will show you the progression of ALZ so you will understand better.
Thank you gladimhere! This is all so new to me, and you're right, he will NOT accept my explanation or reasoning as to who I am. When my husband is in this state of mind I have to be extremely modest and respect that he doesn't recognize me. He won't even sleep in the same bed with me. As hurtful as this is, I have to really appreciate his reasoning and why I love him so.
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It is best to educate yourself (books, videos, websites etc.) so you know what to expect and have some tools to deal with the changes.
Please come back here for support Build in time for yourself during the day. You need to look after you too. ((((((hugs)))))))
You will find that the reasoning ability is gone. Never argue with them. Sometimes agreeing is the best. Filter will eventually go as does processing what is said to him. There will be "stories" that you will say he is lying. He isn't, his mind can no longer differentiate between reality, dreams and what he sees on TV.
You will lose the person your husband was. It is so hard to watch this happen. There is a good video on you tube. Go to you tube and put "Alzheimer video" in search. There is one with a yellow brain. Its a cartoon type thing. It will show you the progression of ALZ so you will understand better.
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