How to find counseling dealing with husband with dementia?

Counselling for you OK but for a Dementia patient it won't work. They can't be reasoned with. What do u mean by defensive?

Are you looking for counseling for yourself or for couples?

Google "counselors" and your zip code. Most practitioners these days have websites that advertise who they are and what kind of counseling they do. It's the electronic equivalent of hanging out a shingle. :)

This is always a good place to come and vent as well.