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TLEE1566 Asked November 2015

How can I find out if my brother got durable power of attorney over my Mom?

And if he does get it removed because he is on methadone. her doctor prescribes my brother xanax i dont believe the doctor knows he is taking methadone. i found out my brother has been giving my mother xanax as well which keeps her pretty much out of it. he has also went through 11,000 dollars in a month in a half. this was suppose to be our inheritance there is 7000. left i was able to hack into is email account and found out he has opened opened online account which is my mothers savings account still in her name. He apparently has been taking her to the bank to withdraw money. What can I do to stop him?

Dezzie Nov 2015
You may want to call a department of Human Services Adult protective services and complain about financial exploitation and physical since he is giving her drugs

GardenArtist Nov 2015
FF, I too am waiting for the answer on how the brother was able to get medicine prescribed by his mother's doctor.

And as to the methadone, it sounds as if he's trying to kick his habit, or he wouldn't be taking methadone and reporting daily to a clinic.

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freqflyer Nov 2015
Tlee, may I ask how you are finding out about these things? Is your mother telling you this? Why I asked is that I noticed that on your profile you say that your mother has Alzheimer's/dementia, and patients with these memory issues will make up stories to get attention.

Plus no doctor will prescribe medicine for a person who isn't their patient, and only after doing an exam plus blood test.

As for the inheritance, never ever count on it. It can go quickly if and when your Mom needs an extra layer of care in her old age.

TLEE1566 Nov 2015
He has made no secret of using methadone he has to go to the clinic daily. He takes my mother to her appointments and he told that her doctor prescribed him Xanax . The doctor is the one that told him that he should get power of attorney. My brother is a master at manipulation. I am pretty sure he doesnt know he is on methadone. I was able to actually see all the withdraws from my mothers account. I have been trying to get him out of the house but he has a free ride. My mother is getting to the point where she needs her daughter taking care of her bathing, and well just things my brother just cant do. It is so frustrating for me. I love my brother but he has just gone to far.

GardenArtist Nov 2015
Go to the local police department with all the evidence you've collected on the financial exploitation. The police can also subpoena evidence from the bank at which the online account was opened. Unless there are other facts involved, this would appear to be a criminal act.

Can your mother tell you whether or not she's executed a DPOA? If not, you may have to get access to her checking account statements and look through them for evidence of payment to an attorney.

I don't understand though nor does it make any sense that your mother's doctor would write a script for your brother, unless he's treating with him/her as well. Doctors don't just write scripts for relatives or people who aren't patients.

How did you find out your brother is taking Methadone?

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