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Waitnsee Asked October 2015

My Mom refuses to hire someone to help with her apartment. What is happening?

Laundry has piled up for 2 months and dirty dishes through out. She has been evicted twice in two years. Property managers did an inspection decided she was not a candidate for renewal of her lease. I think it is only a matter of time before she is evicted again.

BarbBrooklyn Oct 2015
I wonder what triggered those "inspections"? I wonder if it was neighbors complaining about odors, or vermin, or odd behaviors. Can you contact the previous places and find out?

You could call APS and ask them to do a wellness check. Might she listen to "authorities"?

cak2135 Oct 2015
Nine times out of ten, landlords will evict young 20 year olds who have laundry piled up all over the place along with dirty dishes all over the place. Those 20 year olds can also be evicted for playing their music loud at night, breaching the rules of the complex, or failing to pay the rent on time, which almost certainly leads to eviction.

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partsmom Oct 2015
The next apartment should be assisted living, but just call it an "apartment".

GardenArtist Oct 2015
She may also be under the delusion that she can still handle housekeeping and be unable to recognize that realistically she can't do it any longer. Sometimes it's hard for people to admit that they can no longer do things they've done for years - it's a hard recognition to make.

freqflyer Oct 2015
Wonder if the landlords also evict young 20 year olds who have laundry piled up and dishes everywhere?

Waitnsee, is this something fairly new for your Mom to do, or has she been a bit lax when it comes to doing housework most of her life? If this is something fairly new, have her see her primary doctor.... it could be something as simple as her back hurts and doing housework is difficult, or something more complex like memory issues.

Waitnsee Oct 2015
Thank you I know she is diagnosed with bipolar and being treated and drugs are monitored. Last time I requested to have permission to talk with them she refused. I will ask her once again. A certified letter is an idea I had not thought of. I can do that too.

BarbBrooklyn Oct 2015
Depression? Dementia? What does her doctor say when you tell her/ him about this situation ?

If you aren't on a HIPAA form such that her doctor can discuss this, mail a certified letter to the doctor, outlining the problem.

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