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linda816 Asked May 2015

My brother has taken my Mom (86) and won't tell me where she is. What are my options to find her?

He also has moved and I can't track him down.

rhenley Jul 2015
Why is he hiding her?

Countrymouse Jul 2015
Well. Linda posted once and didn't come back. What I'll hope for is that brother and mother turned up safe and sound and the worst that happened was a few well-chosen words.

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Countrymouse Jul 2015
Taken her from where?

PhoenixDaughter Jul 2015
Cant guarantee it applies but it certainly may if foul play for example was suspected

anonymous281963 Jul 2015
Jude, that is an excellent answer, I did not know that banks do that! It makes common sense that they would, especially if there is a conflict of information from two different parties.
A long-standing saying, still used today is: Follow the money.

anonymous281963 Jul 2015
Help, Linda's mother has been missing for over 40 days. I believe she is right to be worried, and has received some of the most excellent advice given.
Now, Linda is missing from this forum of people who really cared enough to answer. She must be very busy trying to locate her mom and brother. I know we don't require any follow up from people who post here, but I want to make sure she knows we care, and I am still praying for her, in case she checks back in here.
Take care of you and your Mom, Linda.

PhoenixDaughter Jul 2015
It's not unknown for banks to stop trading on an account - that virtually forces the person to contact the bank and then they ask them to go in to verify that they are who they say they are - at which point officers would be on hand to ask questions - IF IT WAS THOUGHT TO BE THAT SERIOUS I might add

PhoenixDaughter Jul 2015
Garden spot on as always I would add to that what is HER financial position - would there be any malicious intnt behind him taking her? A check on her bank will reveal if he has withdrawn money on the account and WHERE he withdrew it and if he did a transfer his bank details including address would be registered with the bank - not that they will give them to you but they would have to for the police I think

Behapoy Jul 2015
Sorry I mean isolating her from family.

Behapoy Jul 2015
Call APS Adult Pertective Services and let them know your brother is insulating your mom from you and your family. That will put a stop to it. Your brother will have to answer to the state.

GardenArtist Jul 2015
There's a lot of information that could be provided which would help to answer your questions.

1. What are your mother's mental and medical conditions? Has she executed proxy documents including a Living Will, DPOA, Will and/or Trust? If so, who is named as attorney-in-fact in the Living Will and/or DPOA? Is it you or your brother?

2. Where was she living at the time he "took" her? If an apartment, what happened to the lease? Was it terminated? If she was living at home, is the home now abandoned? If she was in a care facility, what did they say about the circumstances surrounding her "departure"?

3. If she had a caregiver, was it you or your brother? If you, what role if any was he playing? If it was him, what role if any were you playing? Has there been friction between the two of you over your mother's care?

4. What are his financial circumstances? Can he provide care for her at home?

5. How did you become aware that he has moved, and when? What efforts have you made that weren't successful in locating him?

anonymous281963 Jul 2015
Any law enforcement agency will assist you with THE FREEDOM OF INFORMATION ACT. Since you are family, they can, by law, find and contact a family member fof you.

sherry1anne Jun 2015
Does your brother have a POA? If not then file a kidnapping charge against him.

JessieBelle Jun 2015
Do you have any idea why he may have taken her somewhere? A lot more information on family dynamics is needed here.

valencom Jun 2015
I agree. Report to police that your mom is missing and suspected kidnapped. If you have the money to hire a private investigator, that helps, too.

Salisbury May 2015
Have you tried a PI?

BarbBrooklyn May 2015
Report her to the local police as a missing person.

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