Nannie, I was glad to read that your Mom is still active around the house by helping out with the chores. Because of her walking issues, of course you need to help her. I believe your brother isn't seeing the minute by minute situations because he only visits on Sunday afternoon... which is probably sitting around enjoying the afternoon.
Why not set up a Sunday afternoon where he will be required to help his Mom do personal things she needs to do... like helping her to the bathroom, and whatever else she needs help with.
She has had surgery for spinal stenosis and is on heavy pain medication. She walks with a walker and also has an implant to help with pain. I let her do what she can folding clothes, putting up the dishes,making her bed and etc. She also gets her snacks. My brother is too busy with his job and raising his grandson. He calls and sees her on Sunday afternoon.
What are your mom's needs? Have you discussed what her care needs are with her doctor and therapists?
If you think your brother's take on the situation is incorrect, invite him over for the afternoon and go run some errands. Perhaps your mom can do more than she lets on. If this is the case, it would be great to find that out.
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Why not set up a Sunday afternoon where he will be required to help his Mom do personal things she needs to do... like helping her to the bathroom, and whatever else she needs help with.
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If you think your brother's take on the situation is incorrect, invite him over for the afternoon and go run some errands. Perhaps your mom can do more than she lets on. If this is the case, it would be great to find that out.