Usually we want family to visit....but this sibling, I don't think he should be around mom. She wants to ask him to come from out of state, to come and take whatever furniture & household items he wants. That of itself is not a bad idea, except I fear that while he visits, he will take mom to change her Will, maybe drive her over to her bank and encourage her to change beneficiary to be himself, things like that. Since I am the DPOA and Executor I don't want his charming influences over mom. He hardly ever visits--years go by--so when mom talks of inviting him, I think she really just misses him terribly. And she confuses missing him, and being overjoyed with seeing him, and tries to reward him by giving him money, and (I fear) changing her important documents. It sounds irrational, I know. But how do I guard against her making an irrational decision?