Do I need permission from my siblings who don't help at all with my mom?
My 7 siblings have not visited my mom in over a year nor call..I have learned that assisted living cost money that my mom don't have, so I'm asking help from the government. Please all pray for me. I'm holding on by a string.
Oh no, of course you don't need their permission. But I agree with Sharon. If you don't have a POA yet, get one pronto. You can probably find a decent one online for free. The State of Wisconsin has one that you can download for free and it should be good anywhere. Or it's essentially a fill in the blank form for most attorney's and should cost maybe $100 from your mother's money.
If your siblings don't call or visit, they won't know until long after the fact anyway. And if your mother is already in assisted living, the only thing they have to offer at that point is letting mom come live with them. You know how likely they are to make that offer, right?
You are the caregiver, it is your decision when you have had enough, and can no longer provide the care The POA issue brought up above is important. If you do not hold POA, does one of your siblings? If so, you may have an issue with them.
Stick to your guns, but also be prepared for the "white knight syndrome". It is when a family member that has not been engaged in direct care, suddenly comes around to save the day on behalf of their parent. They suddenly have all of the answers and want things done their way. If this should occur, then you let the person know you can have moms things packed and ready to go. If they are willing to take her in, terrific, if not, you do what is the best for you and your mother.
Hi Concerned, you do what you need to do. Why would you need to ask for their permission? Does anyone have POA (power of attorney) or DPOA over mom? If not, and your mom is willing to go, then go for it.
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If your siblings don't call or visit, they won't know until long after the fact anyway. And if your mother is already in assisted living, the only thing they have to offer at that point is letting mom come live with them. You know how likely they are to make that offer, right?
Stick to your guns, but also be prepared for the "white knight syndrome". It is when a family member that has not been engaged in direct care, suddenly comes around to save the day on behalf of their parent. They suddenly have all of the answers and want things done their way. If this should occur, then you let the person know you can have moms things packed and ready to go. If they are willing to take her in, terrific, if not, you do what is the best for you and your mother.
Prayers and good thoughts coming your way.
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