Both my mother's primary doctor and 2 nurses in the past 2 days have told my mom she is getting dehydrated & needs to drink more fluids (she is getting over some sort of virus). My mother has NEVER been one to drink a lot of water. This morning she was complaining of not being able to squeeze enough blood out of her fingertip to test her sugar, so I said "It's probably because you're getting dehydrated - maybe you should drink more water - that would probably help...." For the first time since I've been caring for her, she snapped at me and said "WOULD YOU STOP TRYING TO MAKE ME DRINK WATER???? I DON'T LIKE IT, AND I AM NOT GOING TO DRINK IT!!! I'm NOT a fluids person!!" It honestly left me speechless & I didn't know how to respond to such a ridiculous statement! My husband - who was in the other room, and heard everything - said "If you want to cause your kidneys to shut down for lack of fluids, then go ahead and ignore your doctors, but you don't need to snap at your daughter who's only trying to help you get better!" Boy was he ticked off!!
Mind you, I offer all sorts of drinks - from gatorade, crystal light, diet sodas, etc. etc. - they're always refused except on very rare occasions. If they're cold, they make her cold..if they're hot, they make her hot or she doesn't want another cup. If they're room temperature it doesn't taste right - I CAN NOT PLEASE THIS WOMAN! The only thing she will drink is a cup of decaf coffee in the mornings with breakfast, and then a cup of hot herbal tea with lunch and dinner...beyond enough water to swallow her pills with, that's it. I've been pushing soups and sugarfree jello, etc. which she is now complaining about having had enough of. I am honestly getting concerned that this is turning into more than just being about water/fluids. My husband said it seems anytime anyone suggests she does something, she digs in her heels and wont do it or does the opposite - almost like a toddler. It does seem to be a battle of wills or about her retaining as much control as she can, regardless of what the subject is about. I am really wondering if there's some cognitive changes going on here now that is causing that...or is that normal behavior when there is so much that is already out of her control healthwise??? She does the same thing with her food - she eats what she wants to eat and damn the consequences. No matter how much I try to stick to healthier alternatives for her, it's met with disgust or she's "not satisfied with that." (she is diabetic & wants nothing but macaroni/pasta, potatoes, bread..etc...all carbs, which cause her sugars to go crazy, so I try and control them & she gets pissed) Advice???