I care for my parents who live across the street from me. They are 89 years old with dementia, vision problems, mobility issues, heart problems. They "think" they are living independently, but do none of the things that independent people do in maintaining a home. No cooking, laundry, housekeeping, financial tasks, driving, etc. I feel I cannot leave my home and leave them without someone nearby. They tell me I should live my own life, and if something happens, 'oh well'. I can't in good conscience do that, and know that I will be the one with the consequences anyway. They seem to have lost the ability to see the consequences of their actions at this point. Found dad on a ladder, with one foot on the step and one in the sink trying to change a light bulb. They do not see the risk in anything they do. I assume that this is part of dementia? If I say anything they get defensive and state they are "doing just fine, thank you". How does one reconcile the worry and still have a part of a life left in this situation? I am 65, so am no spring chicken myself and the constant anxiety and frustration are taking a toll on my health. Oh, I am an only child, so there is no one else, and they refuse other assistance to such a point that I then worry about my dad having another stroke. Am I overly protective? I know that I am overly stressed, but feel I need to have my ducks in a row, and avoid issues if I can. Their ducks seem to have flown south - and I am supposed to go and find them I guess. HELP! !