I haven’t posted in quite a while but have continued to lurk here. My story began with my Dad having dementia and my parents (now 84 and 85) moving to an independent living apartment close by my house. I started doing most everything for them..financial affairs, grocery shopping, driving where they needed to go. My mom was still able to do some things like cooking, some cleaning, laundry. Siblings not helping but occasionally promised they would come and help and allow me some time off. (that never materialized) Fast forward almost 3 years to the present and my Mom has now gotten a dementia diagnosis as well. Both parents still have fairly good mobility, aren’t incontinent, have dementia but I would say still somewhat high functioning . The situation now is I have caregivers at night and during the day so that I can sleep and work. They do have a sizeable amount of assets to afford such care so we are lucky on that. Even with the caregivers tho I am the one responsible and I go in the evenings and on weekends when I am not working. My life pretty much consists of working and taking care of them. My siblings don’t help at all. In fact, they won’t even respond to my texts. My dad had pneumonia a couple of weeks ago and I sent a text begging them to come help me. My dad in the hospital and my mom who had bronchitis at home. My sisters didn’t answer my text and my brother texted and said hire more caregivers. Their solutions always involve something that I can do.. without disrupting their lives one iota. That fact has stayed consistant over the last 3 years.. I have one brother and 2 sisters who live at a distance but are not helping.. not even as a support of any kind. They don’t call my parents, check on them.. nothing. I am looking into memory care for both of them and have looked at a few places. The problem is that it is so difficult for me to see my parents in such a place as they are higher functioning than most of the residents in there. Also I have no support system so I will have to really pull myself together to have the emotional strength to handle such a move... I just don’t know how much longer I can handle the current situation. I worry all the time.. the last hospitalization of my Dad almost brought me down. What do you do when they need care but are in that in between stage? I have found some very nice memory cares but I worry they will go into a deep depression as they don’t really realize they have dementia and there are people there that are much more advanced.. slumped over In chairs, walking around mumbling carrying a teddy bear.. etc. Such a hard situation to be in and with no emotional support what so ever.. the only support I have is hired… I haven't had a break from this in the 3 years that this started...no weekends, holidays off.. no vacation.. not sure how much longer I can go like this.