My Mum is a narcissist so when she first started symptoms of dementia I shamefully put it down to her wanting attention, mainly because she has always used illness as a way of getting attention.
Her main problem always seemed to be that she has trouble walking because of arthritis so I didn't really pay too much attention to the forgetfulness, she said it was just old age. Things started going missing about 2-3 years ago that she said someone must have stolen but then after we had turned the house upside down they would suddenly appear.
However in the last two months it has suddenly escalated rapidly to the point that I am reeling with the responsibility and worry and resentment that I am expected to deal with it all. I am an only child, working full time, with a husband with lung cancer and two children who are married and live miles away.
Her anger directed at me has been spiteful to say the least and I am not good at just letting it go, I admit I tend to correct her when she accuses me of something, mainly because she has spent her whole life telling me that I am not as good as other peoples daughters.
She is now delusional, I had to look it up, but yes that's definitely it. She was wondering around the corridors of her sheltered home last weekend and had a conversation with her neighbor asking her how long she had been here and where she was!! She wouldn't let the carer in on Saturday because she said she didn't know her, although she sees her on the Saturdays when I have to work. By the time I saw her on Sunday morning she was very upset with me saying I had dumped her here and she never wanted to come, she cant remember moving to her current home of the last 4 years, she said I dumped her in another flat before the one she is in now, but she lived in a bungalow before coming to live by me. She said she knows its her furniture but doesn't know where she is or what her address is. However we had a meeting with the company that provide care yesterday and she was not too bad and all she would say was she didn't hear very well so that was causing her to have some problems. Bit of an understatement.
I'm not sure what to do next, if I take her to the Doctors she will probably be ok when we get there and if I tell him what's going on she will just say I want rid of her.
Any suggestions as to my next move.